Organising a wedding together with a celebrant means your ‘script’ can be exactly what you want. Writing your own marriage vows can prove to be personal, moving and affecting.
- Wedding Vow Guidelines
- Make sure you and your partner BOTH want to do this.
- Allow loads of time to write – and rewrite – the vows.
- Deciding on a few general things to say (worry about the detail later) – just have clear in your head what it is important.
- Will your vows be serious, humorous, deep, spiritual, religious, or a combination?
- Once you’ve got a few sentences down (and sixty seconds per person is quite long enough), see about reworking them so they look and sound good to you both.
- Leave your draft a day or two, and then review. A friend would be helpful to act as a neutral.
- Practice reading the vows in front of a mirror – or with your partner.
Wedding Vow Content Ideas
- You should probably express deep emotional love for your partner.
- Was your first meeting ‘love at first sight?’
- When did you first realise you were in love?
- How has your life changed since you met your partner/fell in love?
- Talk about your plans and aspirations for your future life together – or growing old together.
- Promise to stay together in the future, come what may.
If you prefer, quote from an appropriate song, film or poem. A Metaphor or simile may get your message across very well and with, perhaps, less embarrassment.
To come up with a meaningful, original and affecting set of vows is not as difficult as you may think. The results will certainly be more than worth the effort.
I hope that helps.
Michael Gordon is a celebrant based in London.